Mother For Life

First off, let me apologize for not being around the last few days. As I have said before, this time of year is hard on me. I’m missing my grandmother, stepfather, and in two weeks, it will be the anniversary of my grandfathers death. This year I also had to deal with not having my kids with me, as they went to their fathers. Top it off with the man having some serious family issues of his own to deal with, and well Christmas basically sucked.

Having said all that, and dragging you down into my slight depression, let me cheer you up a bit. I learned something about my children that I already hoped for, but now I really know.

Let’s start with my daughter. I admit it, she is very very materialistic. If anyone complains about something being cheap or generic, it’s usually her. This year, she received some very expensive gifts from my ex’s family. But when she came home, she pulled out her favorite gift of everything she had gotten. It was given to her by her fathers nanna, who is getting up there in age and has extreme arthritis. This woman put together  a jewelry box, decorated by hand. She then made my daughter two big bead bracelets, along with a few bangle ones tossed in there. My daughter told me that was so special because it meant nanna thought of her, and she didn’t even care if her name was spelled wrong. Coming from my daughter, that statement is of the highest degree.

Then on to my youngest son, my six year old. I think I haven’t been paying attention to just how good a person he really is. When he came home from my ex’s, he was filled with anger. It wasn’t until this evening I was able to get it out of him and understand. He was upset because his great grandfather was not invited over there for Christmas dinner. His wife(my son’s great grandmother) is living with her daughter now due to her age and illness, and yet they left out her own husband from the family get together. My son  was so sad about Grandpa spending the holiday all by himself,that it was just wrong. It all boils down to respect. I have taught my children that no matter how angry you are, you are to always respect your elders.

All in all, learning these things helped me a bit in getting over the holiday blues. Now hopefully we can all move on and forward. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. Try and remember, it wasn’t about the presents, its about the family.

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